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I am a 60 yr old 100% service-connected disabled male. I've had lung cancer twice, so between the chemo and radiation, I hardly have any body hair below my scalp. But, as I'm only looking for platonic friends, it shouldn't matter what amount of hair is on my body. I use to be 6'0 tall; now I'm only about 3 and a half feet tall when sitting in my wheelchair. I weigh in at 212 pounds. I do have body fat due to my ignorance of not knowing what kinds of things I can do to eliminate the fat. If it weren't for this wheelchair, people would never know that there wasn't anything wrong with me. With all the physical therapy that I've had, I was very determined to walk again and to go back to work. The only real problem that I have is my memory. I do not think that I could pass the test to become a LCMT again. I can't remember al;l the bones and muscles, but yet I can remember phone numbers, addresses, everything in my childhood, etc. I am on the quiet side until I get to know people. My friends that I left behind in Denver two years ago, say that I have a dry/sarcastic sense of humor as well as raw and raunchy. Oh yes, I do have a dirty mind! I'm also sensitive to rude comments which I get a lot from people who do not understand disabilities and wheelchairs. Because I am unable to work any more, I still have my hands to do crafts. I used my hands for 33 years before I had the dual stroke. I have worked very hard in physical therapy to get the use of both hands back so that I could think of ways to make money. It took me seven years to do just that. I now make bookmarks for "bookworms", greeting cards, invitations, business cards, etc., and I'm starting to learn leather crafting. Even though I am married, I am very gay/bi friendly (not sexually) and I would say that 90% of my friends in Denver are gay or bi. I find it very hard to find friends here in San Antonio because my wife goes to school and works as an Intern Social Worker. I am not a person who discriminates due to race, religion, creed, or sexual preference. I am a people lover. I like to go downtown whenever I can get there and watch people because people are interesting to watch; mannerisms are my favorite! I try to keep my mind in a positive mood and not think of negative things. I know that I'll walk some day; that is one thing that I will NEVER give up hope on. I can stand for a little while (maybe 15 seconds) with a grab bar. That is how I have kept up some of the strength in my legs. My balance is is off due to the strokes. I guess I'll never be a pole dancer, huh? I really miss laughing and having fun with my friends. How do I have fun in a wheelchair, you say? I can have fun laughing with people; not at people. I do like to joke around with my friends. The last thing I'd like to add is that if it hadn't been for a gay male physical therapist who wouldn't let me give up hope on myself, I wouldn't be alive today. I would rather have a gay man stand beside me than a straight man. And if there ever comes a time where I have to have a caregiver, it will be a gay man. Why? Because gay men are more considerate, more compassionate, more loving, understanding, and a lot more organized emotionally and physically.

Pisces

Heavyset

6' 0 (1.83 m)

Hazel

Caucasian

Married

No

No

Hands

Pierced... But Only Ear(s)

Salt And Pepper

Cat, Dog

No

Some College

Unemployed

Medical / Health

was LCMT

$30,000USD To $44,999USD

With Roomate(s)

There Is No Noise

Yes - Trying To Quit

No

Class Clown

Observant

Arts & Crafts, Camping, Cooking, Dining, Family, Internet, Gambling, Learning, Music, Photography, Religion / Spirituality, Volunteering

Hanging Out With Friends, Going Shopping, Going To A Casino, Going To A Concert, Going To A Museum, Relaxing, Sleeping, Staying At Home, Trying New Things

I'm not interested in dating.....only friendship. Dating to me means that someone wants a sexual relationship. That's not me.

Everything that I can't do now.

Friendly, Cool, Raunchy, Goofy

Christian

Once A Week

I Don't Like Politics

My goal in this life is to find (not replace) the friend that I lost (from cancer) almost 9 years ago who was my best friend for over 32 years. We did everything together even after I got married to my 2nd wife. She loved him too! I need that special male companionship again.

Dry / Sarcastic, Goofy, Raunchy

News, Reality Shows, Re-runs

Thriller, Adult

Country, Gospel

Health, Home & Garden, Religious

Fun! What is fun?? Dining out with friends. I'm very limited to what I can do or what I use to be able to do that is or was fun. Having at least one friend to hang with would be the most fun that I've had in a long time. I would like to find my best friend again (not replace) who I lost due to cancer in 2004. We did everything together; camping, hiking, bowling; you name it, we did it, until my dual stroke in 2003. I need to find that best friend soon because I am starting to go through depression and I hate to be depressed. I love to get out and laugh! I'd like to take a trip to some places that I've not been able to see here in Texas. I'd love to go to Dallas, Houston, and Eagle Pass (love those slot machines). I'd like to find a friend who like to play BINGO. I haven't been to BINGO for several years. I love to yell out, "B-I-N-G-O"!!!! Austin and San Marcos are two other places that I'd like to see. Coming down here, I did get to stay in San Angelo for a couple days. Loved that place! One place that I'd like to go to is a nudist camp. As far as I know, Texas doesn't have any of those. Colorado had one that I know of, but I never got to go to it. I found out about it after Joey (my best friend) passed away from cancer. Yes, fun would be finding a best friend again. Are you him? We'll find that out if you are not shy and aren't afraid of disabled people in wheelchairs. I hate to say this, but I hope that someone out there is as lonely as I am who wants a friendship and not sex. Do you have any idea how lonely I have been for male companionship for the past two years? Hope to see you on the other side!

Empathy, Humor, Intelligence, Passiveness, Sensitivity, Thoughtfullness, Wit

Honesty....faithfulness....real and NOT plastic!

Friend