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Hey, guys. I'm a 46 y/o Black cub enjoying life in Chicago, my hometown. I'm a happy man blessed with a great family, close friendships, a good job, and a comfortable abode, and I'd love to have a cool, sweet dude with whom to share some of life's abundant pleasures and joys. While I am looking toward a committed relationship at some point (when the fit is right), I understand that establishing that level of committment takes time, wise decision-making, the slow building of trust, mutuality and compatibility. And all of that begins with the first date. So, let's start there.

I am 5'8", 215, hairy (chest, back, butt, legs, arms) good-looking, shaved head and very short beard. I am a clean, honest, healthy, sane, friendly, easy-going, welcoming man. I seek those same qualities in other men. I am HIV-, STD-, d/d-free. Sexually, I am a total bottom, mostly oral (love to have a man kick back, relax and enjoy the pleasures my mouth provide), but I'm hoping to meet the right guy who can guide me to being his complete bottom.

While I'm totally open to meeting men of any age, I tend to prefer men over 40. Your looks, body type, sexual endowment and endurance (you know, all those things that seem to mean the world to most gay men. . .LOL) are less important to me than your personality, intellect, sense of humor, integrity and honesty. Yes, I'm serious.

I want to be with a man who really enjoys both quiet evenings home with a DVD and good food and small gatherings with friends and/or family. I love to dance, but hitting the clubs and bars is not very important to me anymore. Chicago (and your city, too) has so much to offer culturally, it would be a joy to share it all with my guy.

Don't be shy, men. Let's talk. Hope to hear from you.

Aquarius

Stocky

5' 8 (1.73 m)

Brown

African American

Single

No

Not Sure

Eyes

Pierced... But Only Ear(s), Visible Tattoo

Black

No pets

Yes

College Degree

Full-time

Politics / Government

Deacon, Church of The Poison Mind (LOL!)

$60,000USD To $74,999USD

Alone

All Is Calm

No

Yes - Socially

Brain

Reserved, Shy, Observant, Friendly, Comedic, Outgoing

Reading, Learning, Music, Tv, Movies, Internet, Dancing, Family, Dining, Theater, Cooking

Hanging Out With Friends, Going Shopping, Staying At Home, The Movies, Relaxing, Reading A Book, Going To A Casino, Playing Video Games, Going To A Concert, Going To A Museum

First dates should be as low-stress/pressure as possible. For me, that means meeting at a quiet coffeehouse or cafe on a Saturday morning so that we can talk easily, feel each other out, and ascertain compatibility.

dating a gay bear or cub.

Friendly, Troublemaker, Cool, Goofy

Spiritual But Not Religious

Never

Very Liberal

As corny as it may sound, my goal in life is to always strive to be the best man I can be. That means self-improvement (emotional, spritual, physical), being emotionally available to my family and friends, not repeating mistakes, giving thought to major decisions, and wisely allowing only good people into my life.

Campy, Clever, Dry / Sarcastic, Friendly, Obscure, Raunchy

Documentaries, Dramas, Instructional, Movies, Re-runs

Action, Science Fiction, Romance, Drama, Horror, Thriller

Country, Rock, Pop, Classical, Jazz, Dance, Soul

Ancient, Auto-biography, Biography, Classic, Fantasy, Fiction, History, Home & Garden, Horror, Humor, Instructional, Mystery, Philosophy, Science Fiction

Out: My friends, my dude and I hitting a club that has great cocktails and slamming House Music. Or all of us taking in a great movie followed by dinner and drinks. Afterwards, my man and I make out, make love, sleep well!

In (my preference): My guy and I cuddling on the sofa, a big bowl of popcorn, a good movie on DVD. Then good loving and spooning.

Intelligence, Humor, Empathy, Sensitivity, Boldness, Oddities, Wit, Thoughtfullness

I don't want to convolute this answer. I like a culturally savvy man of average appearance (I'm not hung up on any particular race, age, body type, etc.), simple and natural masculinity (this has NOTHING to do with being "straight-acting"-- Yuck), a high level of integrity and honesty, and some working idea of what he wants from life and in a partner. I want a man who loves and accepts me for who I am, and I will return that love and acceptance to him. I want a man who is physically affectionate and who is a top that prefers a more passive--yet masculine--partner. At this point in my life I'm ready to be with a man who wants to settle down and live life with me. A man who has kids is great by me because I LOVE kids and would make a great co-parent.

Date, Intimate, Committed